“Everybody has a little ADHD.”
Have you heard that before?
Yes, but some of us have a whole lot of it and almost all the time. That’s different.
The quote above is from an article that actually has some good information and, in my humble opinion, some baloney.
What do you think? clik (this is the article)
For the ADD ADHD deniers: od yu diblve in dsylexai to??
from totally ADHD, The Funnies
Homey’s planner, a good approach
and more on ADD ADHD relationships
and more yet
There is evidence that the ADD ADHD strategies work. This in from Momma who had some questions:
Thank you so much for breaking down the cards/lists strategies for me. I know I asked a lot and I appreciate your taking the time to explain it all. The screen shots are so helpful, too. I understand it much better now. I’m not finished with your book yet, but the cards/lists strategies really talked to me, (I love lists), so I started using it right away. I don’t have my colored index cards yet, so I am using loose leaf paper. I must say, just seeing what I needed to do written on a piece of paper felt so good. It gave me much needed direction. I felt empowered. I started with something simple: I get up early on Sundays, so I can have some “me” time before my children wake up and before Church. During this time, I read my emails, maybe flip through a magazine, catch up on a tv show, guilty pleasure stuff. Well, usually, when I turn on my computer, I find something interesting on yahoo’s home page, then something else interesting (kind of like your Henry VIII Wives’ example). Before you know it, I have done nothing but read yahoo news that is not important , and then I am running late for church. SO, on my list I wrote: read HGTV magazine (and don’t start another magazine before you finish it), read 15 minutes of Your Life Can Be Better, find a Christmas letter from a friend (I’ve been looking through my piles since Christmas), research Hoya care, etc., AND leave plenty of time to get ready for Church. I did it all and checked off the items as I went along. And I was on time for church. No rushing out the door 1/2 ready. It felt great. My family couldn’t believe I was on time. The next day, I wrote some real to-do stuff on my paper – 5 things only – pay bills, empty suitcase, plan weekly menus, etc.) I got them all accomplished. Again, it felt great. I have decided to name my list from Sunday morning “Leisure Time” and I made another list called “Little Things to Do”. for 5-10 minute tasks. Then I will have my list of only 5 things. I am keeping some reminders where I tend to sit: “Finish one book or magazine before you start another” and “leave plenty of time to get ready”. As I said, just seeing the words seems to motivate me and keep me on track. Key for me is keeping up the momentum and the lists. Otherwise, I fall right back into getting nothing done (because it is not written down). Maybe I will make a “write your lists and cards” reminder to keep me going. Thank you for this blog and for your books. They are gifts. Momma
Note the strategies of lists, schedule, blocks of time, and the power of positive reinforcement.
more on lists
The sun always come out after the storm.
Momma asked for details about how to use the card system for ADD ADHD. So:
First, red card for the to do list, limited to 5 things. That’s the tasks for today, tho may not get all five done.
When a new to do comes up, the red card usually has five already, so the new one goes on the orange card. I use a star or underlining or numbering on the orange card to indicate importance. When I have crossed something off the red card, then I look at the orange for the next one to put on.
The yellow card is for things I might do someday, maybe. Sometimes one moves up to the orange or even the red. Sometimes I have spare time and just do one.
1. I also use green cards for movie and book titles, blue for memory, and white for things I’m trying to learn or misc.
2. This system may be outmoded if I could use the iPhone better, but it doesn’t have colors, but I expect there are good apps for this. But the cards seem easier than typing on the phone, and I’m terrified of losing it, or even something happening, like, oh, I don’t know, maybe sending it thru the washing machine?
3. Homey sent a great strategy for priorities, a real problem for me – ” If you could only do one thing on your list, which one would it be?” That’s your number one priority then.
4. I confess I do not stick strictly to the system all the time; maybe sometimes there’s more than five things on the red card, but that is a mistake and I’m working on doing better, cause then my life goes better. Momma’s questions have helped me refocus on this.
Hope this covers Momma’s questions and maybe is a good review for some of us.
What is your system? and What apps do you use?? Hoping for comments (as always)
good ADHD facts on flash cards
another kind of ADHD cards
the power of lists
I just read what may be the best ADD ADHD post ever, from Homey (Patty). I will not copy it here but give you the link. It is great!
Momma complains of totally disorganized, out of whack, doesn’t know how to start. For ADD ADHD, that is disaster. Momma, I don’t know you personally and I don’t know your circumstances, so this is one way to start but you will need to personalize it. Daily and weekly schedule, routine, and blocks of time:
Modify this to fit your preferences and circumstances, you will have a daily and weekly schedule and a routine. You will need to be flexible, things will come up. You may wish to fill in things for the afternoons and evenings or not. For example, I commit to doing a blog post on Mon, Wed, Sat. That’s routine, structure, that I need.
This is a start!
routine for ADD ADHDclik
more routine, from Margarita clik
more ADD ADHD tips, from Dana clik
The follow up book to Your Life Can Be Better; using strategies for adult ADD/HD is
Living Daily With Adult ADD or ADHD: 365 Tips o the Day
This book is intended to be read one tip a day, at your own pace, to help you learn more about adult ADD or ADHD and how to cope with it. Your life can be better!