There is evidence that the ADD ADHD strategies work. This in from Momma who had some questions:
Thank you so much for breaking down the cards/lists strategies for me. I know I asked a lot and I appreciate your taking the time to explain it all. The screen shots are so helpful, too. I understand it much better now. I’m not finished with your book yet, but the cards/lists strategies really talked to me, (I love lists), so I started using it right away. I don’t have my colored index cards yet, so I am using loose leaf paper. I must say, just seeing what I needed to do written on a piece of paper felt so good. It gave me much needed direction. I felt empowered. I started with something simple: I get up early on Sundays, so I can have some “me” time before my children wake up and before Church. During this time, I read my emails, maybe flip through a magazine, catch up on a tv show, guilty pleasure stuff. Well, usually, when I turn on my computer, I find something interesting on yahoo’s home page, then something else interesting (kind of like your Henry VIII Wives’ example). Before you know it, I have done nothing but read yahoo news that is not important , and then I am running late for church. SO, on my list I wrote: read HGTV magazine (and don’t start another magazine before you finish it), read 15 minutes of Your Life Can Be Better, find a Christmas letter from a friend (I’ve been looking through my piles since Christmas), research Hoya care, etc., AND leave plenty of time to get ready for Church. I did it all and checked off the items as I went along. And I was on time for church. No rushing out the door 1/2 ready. It felt great. My family couldn’t believe I was on time. The next day, I wrote some real to-do stuff on my paper – 5 things only – pay bills, empty suitcase, plan weekly menus, etc.) I got them all accomplished. Again, it felt great. I have decided to name my list from Sunday morning “Leisure Time” and I made another list called “Little Things to Do”. for 5-10 minute tasks. Then I will have my list of only 5 things. I am keeping some reminders where I tend to sit: “Finish one book or magazine before you start another” and “leave plenty of time to get ready”. As I said, just seeing the words seems to motivate me and keep me on track. Key for me is keeping up the momentum and the lists. Otherwise, I fall right back into getting nothing done (because it is not written down). Maybe I will make a “write your lists and cards” reminder to keep me going. Thank you for this blog and for your books. They are gifts. Momma
Note the strategies of lists, schedule, blocks of time, and the power of positive reinforcement.
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The sun always come out after the storm.
I just read what may be the best ADD ADHD post ever, from Homey (Patty). I will not copy it here but give you the link. It is great!
overwhelmed by homey
Homey has great ADHD ADD strategies.
other overwhelmed links (it’s pretty common) clik1 clik2 clik3 clik4
there’s even more, but i’m getting overwhelmed by the number of overwhelmed posts
Any mountain can be climbed.
You can make a clear path
Momma complains of totally disorganized, out of whack, doesn’t know how to start. For ADD ADHD, that is disaster. Momma, I don’t know you personally and I don’t know your circumstances, so this is one way to start but you will need to personalize it. Daily and weekly schedule, routine, and blocks of time:
Modify this to fit your preferences and circumstances, you will have a daily and weekly schedule and a routine. You will need to be flexible, things will come up. You may wish to fill in things for the afternoons and evenings or not. For example, I commit to doing a blog post on Mon, Wed, Sat. That’s routine, structure, that I need.
This is a start!
routine for ADD ADHDclik
more routine, from Margarita clik
more ADD ADHD tips, from Dana clik
Momma has suggested more details about using cards, lists, small steps and priorities for adult ADD ADHD. And some other questions. This will take a few posts.
CARDS: the red card, list of five, things to be attempted today. Limit it to five or I’ll be overwhelmed and can’t figure out where to start, and will procrastinate, stagnate, and flop around in useless circles – probably flee to FreeCell. These five also need to be small things, or the same paralysis will result.
What to put on Red Card?
Not routine things! I don’t put “brush my teeth”, or “eat lunch”.
I don’t put “practice guitar” cause I want to do that a little everyday anyway. However, if it’s a day I’ve picked to especially devote to guitar, then I’ll put it on. But small steps -it’s better if I particularly want to work on one thing – then “practice C scale” or “practice I Remember You”. Less overwhelming, more specific, easier to get started.
House work? If it’s routine, not on card. But if Tuesday is the day to clean the kitchen, then maybe, “kitchen”. And if it’s something special, not routine, then “wax kitchen floor” for sure.
More next time.
The Red Card
I love getting suggestions, book reviews and blog comments – Thank you, Momma.
As I complete tasks I cross them off. I also keep re-numbering the order I more or less plan to do them in. When the card gets full or too messy, I throw it away and start a new Red Card (if I had a better supply and wasn’t so cheap (sorry, I meant thrifty) I would use a new card every day.
Here’s the input from Momma. clik
Short answer to a question- When everything is out of whack, start with one thing (ie one area, one problem, etc).
‘OK, but everything’s a mess.’ Yes, I know, but you’ve been living that way for a while, so you’re not gonna fix it all in one day and you need to start somewhere.
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Bonus Site o the Day: Orlov on bedtimes for couples clik